32. Moms Don’t Get Holidays, Unless…
The workload of the holidays hits moms everywhere. Whether consciously or unconsciously, they take on the lion's share of the planning, the meals, the gifts, the travel, the traditions, the emotional labor — all while I stayed focused on logistics. And then rather than share in the fun and excitement the holidays are supposed to be about, they can end up stressed out, resentful, and just wanting it to be over.
This is what happened with us, and my wife helped me learn how I could change it. I discovered that as a man, I just wasn’t taught how to see the invisible work happening, and then was confused and angry about her stress and resentment “ruining” the holidays.
I was always helping. I believed I was doing my part. But she was carrying everything behind the scenes, even doing things none of us even really wanted her to do. She wasn’t getting a break, and all we really wanted was to spend fun, restful time with her.
In this episode, I walk through the step-by-step holiday playbook that changed everything for our family.
In this episode, we explore:
How can dads help moms enjoy the holidays by reducing the mental load?
• What is the step-by-step process for planning a stress-free season together?
• How does the Fair Play system actually work during the holidays?
• What helps moms feel supported, appreciated, and able to enjoy the season?
• How can dads prevent resentment, overwhelm, and last-minute chaos?The Fair Play Deck: A Couple's Conversation Deck: https://amzn.to/44iV3Zv
The Fair Play Book: https://amzn.to/4ltfKsm
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Joe Carr is an entrepreneur, advocate, and passionate educator on fatherhood and partnership. Driven by a desire to provide high-quality, nutrient-dense baby food for his daughter Della, Joe and his wife founded Serenity Kids baby food brand after experiencing their own health transformations through clean eating. Now, alongside his work in revolutionizing baby nutrition, Joe is on a mission to help new dads navigate the transformational journey of fatherhood. Through his podcast and social media platform Dadicated Joe, he shares real, honest conversations about showing up for your children, supporting your partner, and embracing the identity shift that comes with becoming a dad.
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