11. Can a Man Ever Do Equal Housework to Mom?
I value equality and have always tried to do my part of the housework, especially after we had our baby. But I wasn’t trained to see how much work there really is, and how much unseen work my wife did every day. I especially didn’t understand how much thinking she was doing to hold it all together. That invisible labor and mental load began wearing her down and building resentment between us. The Fair Play system of household management changed everything.
In this episode, I share how we implemented Fair Play at home—not just to divide chores, but to shift how we communicate, show up, and build trust as co-parents. From setting minimum standards of care to scheduling weekly check-ins, this system gave us more than just fairness. It gave us time back—for ourselves, our daughter, and the creative stuff we used to love.
If either partner in a marriage doesn’t feel the household work is 100% balanced, then you need Fair Play!
In this episode, we discuss:
What is the Fair Play system of household management, and why is it a game-changer for modern dads?
How do you divide household labor without resentment?
Why do women carry the “mental load” and how men can relieve it
What is the CPE model and how does it stop nagging fights before they start?
How can couples use “business meetings” to stop blowing up over chores?
Why minimum standards of care can prevent 90% of conflict at home
How to create space for self-care and personal growth through better balance
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Joe Carr is an entrepreneur, advocate, and passionate educator on fatherhood and partnership. Driven by a desire to provide high-quality, nutrient-dense baby food for his daughter Della, Joe and his wife founded Serenity Kids baby food brand after experiencing their own health transformations through clean eating. Now, alongside his work in revolutionizing baby nutrition, Joe is on a mission to help new dads navigate the transformational journey of fatherhood. Through his podcast and social media platform Dadicated Joe, he shares real, honest conversations about showing up for your children, supporting your partner, and embracing the identity shift that comes with becoming a dad.
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